In Memory of My Son


Dear Friends,

25 years ago today, Matthew was preparing to come into the world. What an exciting and joyful day that day was! The birth of our first little boy. He was so wanted and his birth was so greatly expected. He was truly a bundle of joy.

1046 weeks; 7,323 days; 175,728 and some hours ago Matthew died. Yes, we count the years, the months, the weeks, the days, the hours and the minutes. We live in the awareness of our broken family.

When one embarks on the path of mourning a child, new experiences and feelings pop up constantly to suprise you. One of the feelings that I find amazing on this 5th birthday since Matthew has been in his premature grave is this: Birthdays are infinitely more difficult than death days. It is expected that you will feel sad on the anniversary of the death, but birthdays are supposed to be times of celebration. As his family we should be talking to Matthew today, wishing him Happy Birthday. He should be thanking us for the presents we gave him. Instead, we went to the cemetary for a simple few moments to remember him. I think of the 20 Happy Birthdays we did have with him. Balloons, games, presents, cake, laughter, bar-be-ques (he was born on Memorial Day, so his parties were always bar-be-ques), fun and love. Lots of love.

The love we feel for our son and brother is still in our hearts but our hearts are broken and bleeding … still. I think they always will.

Happy Birthday, Dear Son.

Who loves you baby? I do, Love,
Mommy

Blessings dear friends,
Pat

Posted Apr 16, 2006 4:27pm

Dear Family & Friends,
Although we have not been able to contact each of you directly, many of you have been asked to keep our family in prayer over the past few weeks and to lift Matthew up in prayer especially. You may be aware that Matthew has been back and forth to the hospital for various problems these past few weeks and has had to receive several blood and platelet transfusions. This letter is to explain what has happened and the direction we are going.
First of all, Matthew was born with a genetic birth defect called Shwachman syndrome. This syndrome is distinguished by pancreatic insufficiency, hematologic abnormalities, including increased risk of malignant transformation, and skeletal abnormalities. As an infant, Matthew showed early problems of failure to thrive, feeding problems and recurrent infections. He also has the short stature, developmental retardation, and bone marrow dysfunction common to this genetic disorder. As a result of the bone marrow dysfunction Matthew has had low levels of white blood cells (neutropenia), platelets (thrombocytopenia), and red blood cells (anemia) throughout his life. He has been treated for these various problems as symptoms arose.
After a long weekend (3/5/06) when Matthew seemed to be very tired and became quite pale, we brought him in to see his doctor (3/8/06), fully expecting to hear he had the flu. Instead we found out that he had dangerously low blood counts and would have to go to the emergency room (3/9) and then be admitted to the hospital (3/10) for blood transfusion and platelets. Two days (3/13) later we returned to the hospital for further tests. These blood tests should a large number of “blasts” and the doctor began to talk with us about pre-leukemia. A week (3/20) later Matthew underwent a bone marrow biopsy and aspiration. One week (3/27) after that we found out he has been diagnosed with Myelodysplasia (a secondary bone marrow disorder). Two weeks ago (4/5) we went in for what we felt was becoming a routine blood test and additional testing on Zachary for a blood type match, and found that Matthew had pneumonia. We spent 3 days in the hospital with that. This past Tuesday (4/11) Kim and I met with the BMT (Bone Marrow transplant) doctors. Wednesday Matthew and I went back to the clinic and he received another transfusion of platelets.
So, what does the future look like? This week we go back and the doctors are considering placing a nasogastrostomy (NG) tube to help “beef him up” for future BMT, probably doing the transplant sometime in early June. In the meantime, Matthew will continue with weekly lab tests for probable blood transfusions and platelet transfusions. He is also being tested to compare his blood results to Zachary on a genetic level so that Zachary can be the bone marrow donor. Along with his daily meds routine, we are giving Matthew daily injections of G-CSF to stimulate his white cell production and battling asthma, hay fever, and any other more serious infections.
With all this in mind and thinking of the future, we have decided to have Matthew graduate this year. He will graduate and receive his diploma on May 26th. Then on May 30th we will celebrate Matthew’s 20th birthday.
God bless you for your love, support and care.
– Kim, Pat, Matthew, Zachary & Stephanie

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